You’re familiar with Dr. Gary Chapman’s five love languages, aren’t you? He says they are words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, quality time, and physical touch. If you don’t know yours and like taking quizzes, you can do it here.
But what I want to know is what is your unique love language?
Sure, I love to receive a gift, whether it’s something that sparkles or hickory nuts someone found and knew I’d like. Or hearing someone say Let me do that for you makes me feel well taken care of. But you know what really makes my heart sing? Crazy synchronicities with someone.
For example, a friend sent me the lyrics to that awful song from the 70s Signs (torture yourself with it here) and the next day I just happened to flip to it on the radio. Or I’m telling a friend about seeing Spike Lee at a Bulls game at the United Center back in the day—and then found out I was relaying the story on Spike Lee’s birthday. Synchronicities like this make me feel so, well, in sync with someone I love.
I also feel connected to someone when they know what I’m thinking without my having to say more than a word or two. It usually sounds something like this,
Me: Where’s..
Them: On the bathroom counter.
It’s probably no surprise that a psychic medium feels love and connection through synchronicity and telepathy. Another one of my unique love languages is inside jokes. Well, maybe not entirely unique. I have a friend who kiddingly says she stays with her husband because it would take too long to establish inside jokes with someone new.
What’s yours? Do you feel taken care of when you don’t have to be the first one up in the morning? Could you die from sheer delight if someone makes you a cup of coffee just the way you like it? Would you do anything for someone who doesn’t always make you choose where to go out to eat or what TV show to watch in the evening? Or maybe the opposite—lets you wield the remote.
Asking what someone’s unique love language is a great question when you want to get to know someone better—even if you think you already know all about them.
