After twenty-six years of marriage, I finally told my husband my dark secret. I cannot grow zucchini. I’ve tried, believe me. I get flowers, but never any squash. While others have zucchini the size of the Goodyear blimp, I got nuthin’.
We all come into this world finding some things easy. My husband draws well and plays various musical instruments. My daughter-in-law sings so beautifully, I cried the first time I heard her. My granddaughter is a basketball phenom.
We also seem to be born with things we can’t do. Have you ever met someone whose cooking is terrible no matter how hard they try? Or someone who can’t get the hang of angle parking (let alone parallel parking)? Put my zucchini impairment in that category.
There are also strange things we seem to carry with us from a previous life.
Inspirational speaker and spirit channeler Esther Hicks always unwittingly buys houses that have problems with the floors. Oracle-card creator Colette Baron-Reid always chooses dogs who later develop foot issues. Any small engine my husband touches refuses to start shortly thereafter. What the hell?
With the big recurring problems in our life, it’s helpful to examine them and see what needs to be done in this life so we don’t carry them into the next. I’m talking about things like consistently attracting partners who have substance problems, or always getting fired instead of promoted. Or, from my own life, why I always cry like my heart is breaking after I visit New England.
The first question to ask is if the issue is a pattern from this life. Or is it something you brought with you*?
The next question is how you can change the pattern. Oracle cards can be useful here. Ask What do I need to know about this recurring pattern? as you shuffle and then pull a card. Meditate or journal on the answer. It’s also helpful to talk it through with a friend since sometimes we’re too close to our own problems to see them clearly.
And then… act. There are so many ways to be, so many different ways to approach every situation. We know we can’t do things the same way and expect different results. I get it, change is hard. But give it a shot.
