When I was a new parent, life was hard. I had two kids less than two years apart (my choice and what the hell was I thinking?) and a full-time job. My husband (long since an ex-husband) was going to nursing school and working. Money and time were tight, and it felt like I didn’t have much support.
I had my kids when I did because I wanted them to be out of the house by the time I was fifty. As the old Yiddish saying goes, Man plans and God laughs. When I was forty-eight, my then nineteen-year-old daughter had her daughter. She and her husband lived with us. They both worked and I took care of the baby. And when the second one came along, well, let’s just say my house looked like a daycare center. And it was hard.
I’ll confess, I felt like a toddler whining, It’s not fair! Who promised me fair?
But still, wasn’t life supposed to get easier as we get older?
Not necessarily, wouldn’t you agree? Easy isn’t a condition, it’s a feeling. What stresses me out might not be what stresses you out. You might find the chaos of an infant and a toddler enjoyable. I might take your biggest pain-in-the-neck in stride.
It’s important for me to remember that even though I can’t control my circumstances, I can control my energy. I can always choose how I react. I decide how to meet and face difficulties. I get to create the life I want.
Energy can be shifted by using affirmations like
I have the power to overcome any obstacle. No matter what is going on, I can be strong, powerful, and self-directed.
Or
In every moment I have the power to choose how I feel
And when that seems nearly impossible, we can co-create with Spirit.
We have a spiritual team that is always available to us, angels and guides who would love nothing more than to help us out. All we have to do is ask.
Here’s how I call on my spirit squad each day:
Guardians, guides, spirits, and ancestors who work for my highest good, be with me today. Guide me; guard me; show me your love.
And if there’s something specific I need help with, I’ll throw that in.
We have the power to create a life that feels easy. If only I had known that back in the day.