My granddaughter was on the bench. Again. She had fouled out too many times. Sometimes she does it one purpose to intimidate the opposing basketball team. Sometimes her temper gets the best of her.
When she was younger, she spent a few days a week with me. She and I were often like oil and water. We’d get into it. There would sometimes be tears—from one or the other or both of us. Then, I would apologize and remind her that we’re both stubborn and we’re both spicy. It doesn’t mean we don’t love each other. That’s the way we’re wired.
I was working with a client last week and she sighed, “I overthink everything.” I told her she doesn’t overthink; she analyzes. She tries to figure out the why. Besides, maybe other people under-think. Who says what the right amount of thinking is? And it’s not like she can change how much she thinks. That’s the way she’s wired.
We all have things we’ve heard others say about us that hurt like lemon juice in a papercut. We’re too sensitive. We need to relax. We come on too strong. We’re too emotional. Or too aloof. Or too kind. Or…
What is it you’ve heard more than once that you’re too? Is it something you can change? Is it something you even want to change? What are the positive outcomes of the way you’re wired?
Deep thinking helps us analyze difficult situations and may help find solutions to problems. Being sensitive makes us empathetic. Finding it difficult to relax gets shit done. Being assertive sets good boundaries. You get the picture. How is your temperament an asset?
As I’ve said before, the Universe needs you to be authentic. You are unique and you have a unique role in the interconnected web of being. Spirit loves you exactly as you are. If you’re not being you, the Universe is diminished.
So here’s to you and the traits you may feel are negative. What a beige world it would be without them.